life advice

[deadbeatface]

I genuinely could use any advice or thoughts about this situation, i know this isn’t really what this place is for but i just need some advice and i have nobody to truly talk to about this. i’ve been dating my girlfriend for 8 months and it’s been an alright time, although before i dated her, i was with another girl. my genuine soulmate, she was another version of me. i really believed she was the one. around july or august, she told me she really didn’t have any feelings towards me and just wanted to be friends. the girl im dating (let’s call her q) has had a crush on me since last year and i initially gave her a chance but i ended up ending it the same way the other girl did to me (call her f). after f ended things with me, i decided to give q another shot, although i was very very clearly not over f. me and q were friends before the relationship so it wasn’t like we didn’t knew eachother. i think i only got with q to fill the void f left in me. throughout my relationship with q, i’ve flirted and talked to many girls. im a fucking loser, yes i know. i was still friends with F. i see her tiktok account and she’s reposting tiktok’s about missing an ex and i think “holy shit, this has to be about me” so i text her and being all friendly thinking shit is sweet and i’ll get back with her and just break up with q. this is around 3 months in our relationship. turns out, the repost weren’t about me, and they were about another guy who she dated in the past year but was truly never over him. eventually i js forget about it and try to move on with my life with q and it worked. until today. i’ve kept in touch with f since, although it’s never been anything crazy or flirty. shes been texting me a lot more recently and talking to me at school. my ass once again thinks this is another opportunity, and i distance myself a lot from my girlfriend. i don’t text her, i leave her on seen, i don’t talk to her at school, i ditch her at lunch to gamble, and i never apologize. today F posted a picture of her and the fucking guy from before. it’s been ongoing on and on i just never knew about it. i almost threw away my relationship for somebody i was still in love with. i do not know what to do whether to break up with q or just die.

 

[Elias.dgaf]

I genuinely could use any advice or thoughts about this situation, i know this isn’t really what this place is for but i just need some advice and i have nobody to truly talk to about this. i’ve been dating my girlfriend for 8 months and it’s been an alright time, although before i dated her, i was with another girl. my genuine soulmate, she was another version of me. i really believed she was the one. around july or august, she told me she really didn’t have any feelings towards me and just wanted to be friends. the girl im dating (let’s call her q) has had a crush on me since last year and i initially gave her a chance but i ended up ending it the same way the other girl did to me (call her f). after f ended things with me, i decided to give q another shot, although i was very very clearly not over f. me and q were friends before the relationship so it wasn’t like we didn’t knew eachother. i think i only got with q to fill the void f left in me. throughout my relationship with q, i’ve flirted and talked to many girls. im a fucking loser, yes i know. i was still friends with F. i see her tiktok account and she’s reposting tiktok’s about missing an ex and i think “holy shit, this has to be about me” so i text her and being all friendly thinking shit is sweet and i’ll get back with her and just break up with q. this is around 3 months in our relationship. turns out, the repost weren’t about me, and they were about another guy who she dated in the past year but was truly never over him. eventually i js forget about it and try to move on with my life with q and it worked. until today. i’ve kept in touch with f since, although it’s never been anything crazy or flirty. shes been texting me a lot more recently and talking to me at school. my ass once again thinks this is another opportunity, and i distance myself a lot from my girlfriend. i don’t text her, i leave her on seen, i don’t talk to her at school, i ditch her at lunch to gamble, and i never apologize. today F posted a picture of her and the fucking guy from before. it’s been ongoing on and on i just never knew about it. i almost threw away my relationship for somebody i was still in love with. i do not know what to do whether to break up with q or just die.

well from what i am getting q is basically just a replacement and you still have feelings for F right? And i dont think its good beeing in a relationship while not beeing over someone, so personally i would break up with q and just wait for some time so things calm down

 

[alex]

I genuinely could use any advice or thoughts about this situation, i know this isn’t really what this place is for but i just need some advice and i have nobody to truly talk to about this. i’ve been dating my girlfriend for 8 months and it’s been an alright time, although before i dated her, i was with another girl. my genuine soulmate, she was another version of me. i really believed she was the one. around july or august, she told me she really didn’t have any feelings towards me and just wanted to be friends. the girl im dating (let’s call her q) has had a crush on me since last year and i initially gave her a chance but i ended up ending it the same way the other girl did to me (call her f). after f ended things with me, i decided to give q another shot, although i was very very clearly not over f. me and q were friends before the relationship so it wasn’t like we didn’t knew eachother. i think i only got with q to fill the void f left in me. throughout my relationship with q, i’ve flirted and talked to many girls. im a fucking loser, yes i know. i was still friends with F. i see her tiktok account and she’s reposting tiktok’s about missing an ex and i think “holy shit, this has to be about me” so i text her and being all friendly thinking shit is sweet and i’ll get back with her and just break up with q. this is around 3 months in our relationship. turns out, the repost weren’t about me, and they were about another guy who she dated in the past year but was truly never over him. eventually i js forget about it and try to move on with my life with q and it worked. until today. i’ve kept in touch with f since, although it’s never been anything crazy or flirty. shes been texting me a lot more recently and talking to me at school. my ass once again thinks this is another opportunity, and i distance myself a lot from my girlfriend. i don’t text her, i leave her on seen, i don’t talk to her at school, i ditch her at lunch to gamble, and i never apologize. today F posted a picture of her and the fucking guy from before. it’s been ongoing on and on i just never knew about it. i almost threw away my relationship for somebody i was still in love with. i do not know what to do whether to break up with q or just die.

this rough ngl

i dont even know what to tell you

my best advice is dont take it to seriously, if you show interest in f so much she knows your obsessed. if you have a happy relationship with q and you are still chill after a few months I GUARANTEE she will break up with her boyfriend or whoever this guy is or he will. If she sees you with q during her breakup with f, she will get jealous. Eventually, once you show your carelessness she will have her attention on you.

overall summary, treat your girl right now the best you possibly can (in a way where f can see) and when she sees her horrible relationship in comparison to yours she will draw attention to you. this happens to me in the inverted way (like if a girl does this with a boy i use to talk to) like posting their relationship and that they are together actually makes me mad.

not saying I am everyone, I think this is just a good way.

And also just start looksmaxxing, if you are not MTN in this situation it makes it kinda hard. Especially if this girl is MTB+

Lmk if you want any of my quickest softmaxxing methods without hardmaxxing or doing a cycle.


This method has worked for a lot of people and thats my best advice

 

[Retamg]

Do you have updates ?

 

[deadbeatface]

Do you have updates ?

nothing too crazy, although she just posted him again today. me and q are whatever now but i still feel bad after treating her like shit.

 

[zz_arr.]

nothing too crazy, although she just posted him again today. me and q are whatever now but i still feel bad after treating her like shit.

I agree with @Elias.dgaf. Personally I think the best thing to do in this situation is to let go of both of them. Take a break and get out of all the drama and bs for a little. Get back into girls when you’ve fully moved on from f. If you don’t it’s just gonna keep ruining relationships like q and make you look like a pos to all the other potential girls